Are you a little fed up, bored and frustrated with being single and feel it's time you figured out how to attract a man into your life, one who is interested in building a long-term committed relationship with you?
You spend quiet nights alone when what you really want is that special someone there with you, to talk to, to hold you tight and make you feel alive, special and loved.
I'm going to share with you some tips on how you can go about attracting the right man for you.
It doesn't matter if you're shy.
The art of attracting men is about drawing the men you want to get know towards you and have them approach you so you can get a conversation going and possibly arrange a future date.
Learning How to Attract A Man To Approach You Is Critical.
If you're shy, chances are you don't really approach men you feel attracted to and ask them out.
You wait and hope that they somehow find you attractive and approach you.
But, if for whatever reason he doesn't pick up the signals that you're open to being approached despite his level of attraction towards you, then that's an opportunity missed, lost and possibly gone forever.
So if you don't learn how to attract men, especially men who you're interested in, you're going to lose out on many opportunities to find love and continue to be bugged by the feeling of loneliness.
You'll wonder where have all the good men gone and why your friends can attract the men and relationships they want but you can't despite you being a catch.
So before we get into the "how to's" let's answer this question:
What Is Attraction and How Does It Work?
More importantly, how can you create attraction inside of a man's mind that he feels compelled to approach you, get to know you, and initiate the dating process?
To attract and keep a man in a long-term relationship, you need to achieve and maintain two levels of attraction:
The first is physical attraction.
Physical attraction is about how appealing you look physically. It's based on grabbing his attention and pulling him in. It's about turning him on so to speak.
The second level of attraction is emotional/intellectual attraction.
Emotional/intellectual attraction is based on feeling and thinking about someone in a very desirable way other than sexual, which is more based on physical attraction. This level of attraction is invisible.
It's beyond the physical and must exist if you're to both experience a dating relationship that progresses to the long-term.
But we're only going to talk about creating physical attraction here as it's the first stage and an important one to master in learning how to attract a man.
Think of attraction as an "invisible force" that pulls you into it's seductive power whether you want it to or not.
If you have certain characteristics, qualities and features, the "invisible force" picks up on it and begins to draw you in closer until you're "in" it's possession.
It's just like how a magnet works, it pulls in metal objects that are within it's range until they're sticking together. Attracting men works in the same way.
You attract by becoming attractive to the person you're seeking to attract.
You develop the "invisible force" that pulls men in whether or not they're consciously aware of it to the point where the next move is for him to approach you and start a conversation.
This is key to learning how to attract a man. Develop a presence that compels him to notice and then invite him to approach you.
So how do you do this?
I'm glad you asked.
Attract Him By Being Attractive.
As I've just said you need to develop an "attractive presence" that compels a man to notice you in a positive way otherwise he has no reason to ever approach you or view you in a romantic way....EVER.
In other words, you attract by being attractive.
So before you can attract the type of men you're interested in, there are a few key things you'll need to do:
1. Identify Your Ideal Man.
2. Identify Your Unique Qualities (both physical and mental).
3. Asses Your Personal Qualities Against the Qualities That Will Attract Men.
4. Act. Cultivate the Qualities You Need and Build Upon Your Strengths.
Target Your Ideal Man You Want To Attract.
You can't expect to attract the right man for you if you don't know who he is.
Many women make the flawed assumption that all men are the same. This belief is so wrong that there should be a prison sentence for such a crime.
Every man is different.
Sure, most men share similarities, after all we're the same species but what attracts one man to you won't attract another, in fact it might turn him off.
Similarly, two men who are attracted to you may have two different reasons behind it. One may see sex whilst the other sees beauty.
So avoid making the assumption that all men are the same.
Here's a few questions to help you gain clarity on the man you want to attract.
- What qualities does your ideal man have?
- Describe in a much detail as possible what your ideal man looks like.
- What's his personality like?
- What type of work does he do?
- What are his interests in life?
- What does he like most in a woman? What does he dislike most in a woman?
Go as far as you can possibly go with it. The more clearer you are the better and easier it will be to figure out what attracts that type of man.
Identify Your Own Unique Qualities (Both Physical and Mental)
You have unique qualities that make you uniquely you and that will appeal to the right man. The question is do you know what they are?
Knowing how to attract a man first starts with the physical side, meaning you need to look appealing in some way to get his attention so he can then approach you.
The best place to start here then is with your strongest or most favourite features that can be made attractive.
So ask yourself the following questions:
What physical features do you like the most about you? What physical features do you like the least?
How would you rate yourself on each of these elements. Give yourself a rating from 1 - 10 (1 being don't like 10 being I like very much)
- Your eyes.
- Your lips.
- Your breast/cleavage.
- Your bottom.
- Your legs (thighs, calves).
- Your shoulders.
- Your hips/waistline
- Your stomach
- Your smile.
Feel free to include any other attributes that you feel to be relevant.
Discover What Attracts Your Ideal Man.
We've already touched on this in the first part of the exercise but now, it's important to make it more personal to you.
What qualities do you have that will attract this guy? What qualities could you accentuate more? Which ones might you tone down?
Knowing the man you want and the qualities that he's likely to find attractive gives you a lot more feminine power to attract the man you want.
Another tip that I will give you is to ask a few of your male friends for their opinions regarding your personal qualities and what they find attractive in a woman.
Doing this one thing can seriously open your eyes to things you never ever contemplated.
Make sure you take note of their answers, this is useful information that you can use to help you attract Mr. Right.
Time to Act. Cultivate the Necessary Qualities and Build Upon Your Strengths.
There's no point in doing the hard work of assessing yourself, identifying your ideal man, asking male friends for their input if you're going to then put all that on the shelf and do nothing.
You now need to put your knowledge into action.
No action means no dates or relationships.
You'll continue to be haunted by that lonely feeling in your gut that wonders whether you'll ever find Mr. Right.
You can't attract Mr Right by just thinking about him, hoping he turns up. You're more likely to attract the wrong men this way.
So develop your attractive feminine presence immediately. Go to work on it today.
Here are a few more tips that you can try today to help you attract a man:
Wear clothes that you are comfortable in and that accentuate your curves and favourite physical features.
Use make-up sparingly. Use it to enhance your already attractive facial features.
Avoid drowning yourself in foundation, eye liners and lipstick. If you have attractive cheeks, lips and eyes or want to use them to attract, enhance them of course, but don't overdo it, subtlety works best.
Look online at magazines, websites and to see if there is a hairstyle that will make you more attractive.
This isn't for a man, this is for you. You may not feel the need to change your hairstyle, if so, then don't bother but looking may help you come up with new ideas for now or in the future.
Start smiling. Many men and women forget their smile at home and feel that they don't need to smile if they have nothing to smile about.
Whilst this may be true in some cases, you want to develop the habit of smiling anyway; it's good for you psyche, makes you more approachable and friendly and helps raise self-esteem.
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